This is going nowhere guys, agree to disagree eh?
Think the problem is that some people are dicks.
#unavoidable
Fair enough.
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Posted August 03, 2016 00:46 · last edited August 03, 2016 00:47
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2 versionsSo in summary, a lady struggling to stay standing and using a walking stick should remain standing unless she specifically asks for help?
That's what it appears you are saying.
So on top of an individual already struggling for mobility, to get to work, to do day to day tasks around the house, to make various hospital and doctors appointments, to do the things they enjoy in life, to not let it effect them emotionally, professionally and physically...they still should have to ask for a seat on a bus despite obvious signs they need one?
Wow.
Yup. if she wants help she can ask for it, and I will very happily oblige.
I'm not going to assume that she struggles to get to the hospital and and that she struggles to do the things she enjoys in life as I don't know her and don't judge people based on their appearances (you wrote a lot of very specific issues she faces, if you don't know her then that's some condescending views).
What if one of those things she enjoys in life is knowing she can still get where she needs to go on her own, and that by offering assistance she is made aware that the world sees her as weak and unable to be her own capable independent woman? You would like to deprive her of that so that you don't have to be inconvenienced to ask someone for a seat when you need it? Wow.
If she chooses to not seek assistance and struggle on her own that's her right and her choice. If she takes pride in it I'm not going to make her feel like her appearance has dictated that she is unable to function like everyone else and remove the inner strength she may take from it.
I'm not going to assume what she can or can't do, what her feelings are or aren't, or what she does or doesnt want from me, but if she shares that information with me I will very happily help.
To be clear you are saying I should assume that she is "already struggling for mobility, to get to work, to do day to day tasks around the house, to make various hospital and doctors appointments, to do the things they enjoy in life, to not let it effect them emotionally, professionally and physically" based on nothing but her appearance and my prejudice. No thanks, that is far too many assumptions to make about someone I don't know.