How do i make myself feel happy again?

How do i make myself feel happy again?

Not a joke thread. Serious answers only please.

Damn, I was expecting a laugh!

Whenever I'm down I just try keep busy. Hang out with those people that make you feel good about yourself. And whatever your favourite band is, turn up the stereo in your car and sing yourself hoarse. Works for me.

Main thing is to keep yourself busy. Keep that mind on something else. And eventually you will be good. It takes time.

^^ These, I find that keeping busy, no matter what it is, will make sure my mind doesn't dwell too much on unhappy things. Keeping busy also opens new opportunities, which can replace things you may feel that you have lost in your life, or things that may make you happy.

Hope you feel better soon

care to explain whats wrong? may help with my answerr

Let me guess it is a girl?

Nasty pieces of work they can be sometimes.

Hot Tub Time Machine.

Golf.

Climb things. Hills.. Trees.. etc. Long walk? Holographic universe theory always makes me think about larger things than life.

or.. if you have The Sims.. Make there lives a living hell.Azevo2010-07-26 02:07:10

Nah not a girl this time round. I don't really know what's wrong that's why i don't know how to fix it. I just feel down or depressed for large periods now. I only get a fleeting moment of happiness here or there (eg NZ v Italy made me feel happy for a few hours after but after i woke up the next day it wasn't there anymore).

I just want to be happy and relaxed again.

Councilling perhaps? 

Exercise.  Eat properly (even if you don't feel like it). Try to get as much sleep as possible. Always have something to look forward to. Make a list of the things you enjoy most in the world and do those things as often as possible. And maybe spend a little less time on here (all joking aside) - it can get a bit cynical sometimes.

 

Sleep well, eat well, exercise. Repeat.

My 2c would be try not to become too self-absorbed, and think about making other people happy, because this can often make you happier in the process.

I think I can definitely relate, Buffy. All good advice on here. Keep busy, stay healthy, keep doing the things you love. I've had issues in the past year of keeping positive (it can be hard living in a small town where you have few friends) but just keep telling myself that I've got it good and everything will work out if I keep my chin up.

Talk to someone. A councellor, A good friend, A family member, anyone who will listen.

Cheers lads.

Try to avoid people who are overly negative, or else call them out on their negativity.

I find being around negative people/whingers often brings down my mood.

The corollary to that is to be positive to others as much as you can.
Bevan2010-07-26 13:32:45

Whenever people bother me,

Well i did say serious answers only please, but your post is appreciated anyway as it's rather poignant.

Buffy, I'll meet you in Taupo and we can have a man hug  

learn something
the joy of knowledge or education is good stuff.

a second language?
a musical instrument?
what about cryptic crosswords?

who knows but maybe breaking up ya routine with something new that you can methodically work on might be the ticket

get tanked at the gym

I'd say figure out the cause of your unhappiness and try to deal with it that way. Best to see a counsellor who can help you figure that out. Chances are pretty high they'll suggest a lot of the stuff aforementioned here (exercise, diet, sleep etc) but sometimes diagnosis can help find specific solutions, especially if there's a chance of it being more than a matter of just not being happy recently. Hope that helps, get well soon.

This might work or might not but whenever I'm down I listen to Eminem. I know he has got a lot of people through tough times, but I guess that's only if its your genre.

Johnny Cash, mixed nuts and comfortable clothes work wonders.

Mr Inc and Feverish - Have been regularly exercising lately, funny you should mention gym as i'm on a gym programme at my physio to rehabilitate my leg following a recent injury. Definitely enjoy going there but the thing is you can't exactly do it round the clock so i only feel good for so long then it fades.

Robb - Been to a counsellor last year, was alright, but didn't always enjoy it. Not sure i want to go down that road again. Always an option i guess, but i would have to think about it.

Foal - Not so keen on the crosswords but learning something like a new language or instrument sounds fun. I learnt a bit of Spanish last year and know a couple other languages from high school but don't remember much of any of them, so learning one properly would be cool. As for instrument, i would probably choose piano as we have an old one in our garage.

HP - Don't like Eminem but thanks anyway for your suggestion.

Oska - Interesting suggestions there but thanks for your input.

On the flipside, the sooner I stopped listening to negative music, the sooner I started to get less depressed. Sure there is a time and place for darker music, but when you're down sometimes you need to listen to something with a brighter outlook on life. For me it's ska, in particular a band called Streetlight Manifesto. For some reason a lot of their songs are about depression and suicide, but all have a bright outlook and positive themes, without sounding preachy or poppy. Does the trick for me when I'm down. I guess there's a different band for everyone to lift them up.

+1

Ever thought about pottery or sculpting? Maybe something arty if you're good at it.. Does the trick for me.

I love art, but i'm sh*t at painting (go figure). Not much better at sculpting either. Although i do enjoy just messing around drawing things from time to time, even if they look crap.

Set some goals... small, big, silly, serious... set several, make some really easy and achievable - and others maybe not so much... but have a variety and give yourself a pat on the back, achievement feels good - no matter how seemingly insignificant.

For example - when I was recovering after my op and feeling a bit sh*t about everything... I started planning my days around goals... even things like getting out of bed and eating two meals (which was good when I regularly wasn't eating more than a bit of fruit or packet of chips a day lol).

Search for the achievements/positives, and recognise (if not celebrate) them!

Ok, i'll try set some goals. Not sure what yet. Maybe i'll clean my room :)

Or maybe not

Oh, so you know how bad it is then haha

lol

Nah but seriously thanks for that bit of advice. Always felt a bit apprehensive towards celebration something that may seems menial. But if it makes me feel better then it must be healthy right?

Email brumbys and do more smack talk!

Drop the crap music, force yourself to watch some more comedy and laugh more, spend some time with some animals (volunteer with SPCA), be creative (in my mind my creativeness comes through in marketing strategy, or photography), go fly pacific blue out of queenstown & remember how lucky you are to be alive!

All I can offer is my own experience - and someone suggested it to me and it certainly helped me out... also helped get a bit of perspective on stuff too, whats important and what isn't... and helped me give myself a break too which was good.

And your right, anything that makes you feel better has to be good (just don't get caught if it's illegal lol).

There's no one answer for all of us mate - just talk and listen and hopefully sooner rather than later you'll find something that helps you, in some way or other (however small).