A team in Wairarapas position in that game is always going to feel like they got the wrong end of calls. The crowd seemed to feed off each other in disapproval, and the players probably felt more frustrated or justfied in feeling cheated given the reaction of the crowd too.
As a neutral, I can honestly say the referee had a good game. If things don't go your way the easiest thing to do is to blame the referee, especially if you've had two players sent off. We've all felt that way in various games, myself included.
Who would be a ref.