How do i get over the fear?

How do i get over the fear?

Ok, so i briefly posted in the "things that piss you off" thread about my car being broken into sometime between 6pm Sunday and 7am Monday while i was working. Thankfully nothing valuable was taken although i am left with a shattered back window on the passenger side. But aside from the physical damage, i think i've been left mentally scarred too.

Ever since i have been too scared to leave the house. Usually even if i am off work i will always find something to do outside during the day or in the evening, staying home during a weekday is far too dull. I haven't left the house since i got in yesterday morning from work and have no real desire too unless someone picked me up and i made sure my car was fully secure in my garage (which i can't do as it is full of junk). I feel like i can't go anywhere without being afraid of my car getting attacked again.

I would like to know if anyone else has had a similar experience and whether it gets better or not over time. Thank you.

I am not meaning to be harsh

I am hoping this is helpful

Get over yourself. The event is random, not a planned and deliberate attack on the persona of Buffon II. It's just something that happened, your involvement is nothing, just the clean-up/spill over is in your way.

If you concern yourself with every connection that attaches itself to you, you'll go mad. Someone seen an easy steal, from something that belonged to you, nothing more, nothing less

if it wears you down , it's officially a problem. Don't let it. Live your life free of fear, or at least in a way that a car breaking in is not going to trouble you.

I agree with Foal and if you have that sort of problem maybe counseling? A football forum isn't really the place.

Just one of those stupid, annoying parts of life im afraid. Our cars have been broken into 5 times outside our flat this year. Its a f**king pain but not alot one can do about it without having some hi-tech alarm system. Its no personal attack, just some stupid fools doing stupid things.

In my former life I was a counsellor. From memory...The two best techniques are A) Desensitisation. Gradually increase your exposure to the world etc. I know your not staying inside all the time etc but if you avoid things for long times then the habits entrench themselves and are harder to change.

I'm not afraid of being beaten up (i have been followed and attacked in the street many years ago though), i feel unsafe to take my car anywhere public or populated in case it is broken into again.

And people like Tyler are why i can post it here NHpeter, if you aren't going to be constructive then go elsewhere.

Don't be so defensive mate.

Mate man up,I know it sucks now but in a month it's not going to be such a big deal.Cars get done over all the time,It's nothing personal.You need to move on they got nothing. it's just cost you some bother getting it repaired, are you insured ?

It amazes me the calls to "man up" etc on here and we wonder why blokes don't open up and talk about their fears and feelings ffs.

If he was in the car at the time, my response would've been different.He can't control these things, I'm sure he feels violated and vulnerable but that all passes over time. the sooner he gets over it, the quicker he can move on. I applaud him for opening up and hope he realises there's nothing  malicious intended. he asked for some advice, having had my car broken into, plus my house burgled.i've similar feelings of anxiety after as well ,but if you let it get to you, you'll never stop looking over your shoulder.

Hey Buffy,

I'm guessing from previous posts you've made that this incident is probably just a trigger for some more deeply held anxieties or fears that you have. But I'm no doctor so that's probably who you should be talking to if it's affecting you. Does your GP know your full story? Either that or talk to someone who knows you well who will listen without telling you to toughen up. You might just need to talk it out.

Us males bad at that sh*t.

Get insurance.

I have insurance. Thanks for your concern though.

So what are you worried about? Let the scum go to town on your whip, then get a shiny new whip.

I had someone smash into my car a month ago and had to claim insurance on it as i needed two new doors imported from Japan (it was a bad crash). I don't know if insurance will pay out again so soon after, as i know from experience with insurance companies they aren't too keen on that sort of thing.

Go talk to them. Insurance companies aren't the c*nts we make them out to be, they actually are pretty reasonable when dealing with them face to face.

When I was 17 I had $1700 worth of stuff nicked from my car parked on our driveway. Scum. Nothing I can do but claim insurance, and get an alarm.

Ultimately possessions mean jack in life, it's the people, memories, and experiences that matter. So far they've only stolen possessions, but if you keep hiding away then you'll end up letting them steal what's important, memories and experiences.

Chin up mate, you're much better than these low lives who'll never amount to anywhere near what you will.

i had a knife pointed at my belly once and i got over that .